Stress can have a big role in the decrease of libido and there are many factors that are contributers.  Most people are stressed out financially these days.  Work also plays a huge part. This short article gives 4 basic lifestyle changes to help relieve your work day stress: eat breakfast; take a lunch break;  drink more water; and exercise more.  I know sometimes it's very easy to work through lunch to meet the deadlines, pick up the slack due to layoffs, etc.  Getting out for fresh air, reading a book, going to your car to decompress, a walk around the block...anything, can help your YOU time throughout the work day.  Smoke breaks are not in this category by the way.  The article also gives other stress reducing tips.  

I stumbled across this great article from TLC regarding ten things to help your sex life.  I like this article because they give brief information about each item.  Personally I don't eat oysters but it was nice to read WHY they are an aphrodisiac.  I'll mention the ten items but I encourage you to follow this link to the TLC article.  Let me just say most of my favorite things are on there so I'm happy.

    10. Dark Chocolate (not a Snickers)

Enjoy the article!

XOXO!

PS: Artie...you are loved!! "huuuuge" fan.

    

I recently met this gal who found out her husband watches porn.  I personally recommend watching porn together so you can see what he likes...possibly incorporate some new fantasies, dirty talk and / or role playing to your repertoire.  We ended up talking and her issues go a little deeper than just 'oh, my man watches porn.'  Then I got thinking about a gal I know; when she found her husband's porn collection, she hit him so hard...she broke her ulna.  Granted they didn't have that get to know you period because they got married fairly shortly after meeting...like a couple weeks (not judging).  I've been wanting to blog about husbands and porn for awhile now.  I was shocked at how many women have issues with this.  After reading their questions, I felt for them.  Most of these women seem to be willing to do anything for their men!  I'm talking dressing up, watching porn together anytime, sex anytime they wanted, anal sex, etc.  My Ex-Thing used to watch porn and get off 3 - 5 times a day.  I personally thought it was hot but we also talked and agreed that he's probably addicted to masturbating and / or porn.  It never bothered me how much he watched because it didn't affect us but I can see how this could hurt a lover.  While researching, I read some men were sneaking to the bathroom in the middle of the night with the laptop to watch porn. Many of the men promised never to do it again, but of course they got caught doing it again.  This is a touchy subject because I'm all about watching porn with your man.  I can also see the downside where it is majorly effecting the lover.  I believe honesty and communication are SO important for any relationship to grow.  Men, if you're going to watch porn and your wife / girlfriend doesn't like it...please be discreet.  Clear your cookies, empty your caches, and clear your history on your computer.  Ladies, please know that men watch porn and it doesn't mean they don't love you or want you.  Men and women, keep in mind that if you ask questions / go investigating, be prepared for the answer.  It may not be what you want to hear. This site offers informational resource links and surveys about breaking porn addiction.  If anything effects your work, life or relationships it is addiction. So to answer the question: Watching porn. Is it really so bad??  It all depends on you and your situation.  Women can be addicted to porn as well

 

XOXO,

Sugar

PS: Artie Lange, you are loved and missed by millions!

This entry is to inform men of a few things. First off, shaving and trimming is very important.  As we all know it adds some inches down there, visually speaking.  But I'm here to say, keep on going...beyond the testicles!  The perineum and anus are a plus.  Even if you're not sure if you'd like any action in down there, the cleanliness is appreciated.  

During arousal your prostate becomes enlarged. It becomes so enlarged that the perineum, aka the taint, becomes swollen and hard to the touch.  The pulse can actually be felt.  Applying pressure, while rubbing up and down on the taint during fellatio gives the prostate some lovin' and feels really good.  So, yes, you can access the prostate without actual anal insertion.  However, rubbing on the prostate internally will increase the male orgasm beyond belief.  Men, enjoying this type of stimulation does not mean you're into men.  If you're worried about a mess, please see my entry "Add "Latex" Gloves To Your Routine."

Happy Playing,

XOXO!!

PS: Artie Lange...we love you!!

Fans of  breathing: Tony Horton (P90X), Tantra instructors, Yoga instructors, Meditators, me...to name a few. 

Here's to breathing!

Sugar

PS: Artie Lange, we miss you!

We all know that working out has many benefits.  Here are "Ten Reasons to Work Out That Has Nothing to Do With a Sexy Bod."  He left out "happiness", so it's really eleven. Here's another benefit if you have access to a Costco and a 24 Hour Fitness!!  I hate going to my local 24 Hour Fitness and watching people sign up if they are not getting the best price.  I would really love to share this huge money saving offer.  For the past couple years, Costco has been selling a 2 year, Sport Club membership for $299.  This breaks down to a measly $12.46 a month.  Keep in mind 24 Hour Fitness has monthly deals but NONE as good as this.  They do offer a pre pay for 5 years and the real savings come AFTER that 5 years.  Then the monthly fees are approximately $9.  If you're able to come up with a large chunk of money, that's a good one.  With this economy, coming up with $299 may be tough too.  To put it in perspective as of 01.07.10, their special is $30 a month, pay first and last month's dues, having the initiation fee of only $10.  For two years...that comes out to be $730!!  That's a difference of $431!!  Crazy huh?  Their other special is to pre pay for one year for only $250 which for two years it would come out to be $500.  The difference being $201.  I'm not sure on processing fees on 24 Hour Fitness pre pay.  For Costco...it's zip, zero, zilch.

For those of you who have signed up within thirty days...you can still cancel your membership and purchase this Costco one.  Please note that whatever you pay monthly, it will be your price forever! I pay $16 a month.  I didn't do the Costco one because I don't know how long they will sell them. I didn't want two years to come and go and then run the risk of paying $35 a month or something ridiculous like that.  Last month's special was $35 a month and no processing fee which I think was $99.  

Let's all get fit while saving money!!  There's no reason to pay full price.  Go with a friend who has a Costco membership.  One last Costco savings thing.  Your Guest can also use the Eye Exam place. Which means they can order glasses and contacts with you.  

Don't you LOOOOOOOVE saving money!?!

XOXO,

Sugar Sugs

In Honor of Artie Lange, I will mention him in every blog from here on out. You are loved by MILLIONS!

Come winter time, I'm a fan of warm tasty beverages.  Bailey's with hot chocolate / coffee is one of my favorites.  The other is hot apple cider with a little bit of Apple Pucker in it. I recently tried a better alternative to the apple cider mixture.  Mike's Hard Lemonade has come out with a seasonal flavor called Spiced Apple.  Honestly, I'm not a fan of it cold but I'd like to suggest it heated up.  It comes in a glass bottle so please don't heat it up in the bottle.  If it's you and a friend, crack it open, pour in mug and toss in microwave.  So perfect on these cold toasty nights!  If you're having a get together you can pour some in a pot and leave on the stove.  Even better, I would like to suggest a Crock Pot.  This way you can leave it by the snacks and food or at your bar.  Don't forget your ladle.  Try adding some cinnamon sticks to your Crock Pot.  Mike's Hard Apple Cider contains 5.9% alcohol and costs about $7.50 a six pack and can be found at most grocery stores.  Just remember this fun variation for a Winter get together beverage.  

XOXO!

I write about Ashley Madison because finally there is a website designed specifically for married people to date. Maybe spice up what's missing from the marriage.  I say finally because if you have ever been on any dating site, a lot of the men are actually married.  This just puts it out there. Ashley Madison was founded in 2001 and is millions strong.  They say a new member signs up every 15 seconds.  They even have "an affair to remember" guarantee.  Hey it's a money back guarantee.  Maybe if Eliot Spitzer had signed up things would be different for him. Regarding Tiger Woods, 50 Cent said "he just picked the wrong girls."  Is the count still at 9??  Fitty also called the girls chickens...derived from chicken heads...which means stupid or not very bright.  I just read that Ashley Madison offered Tiger $5 million to be the spokesman for their site.  I invite you to go the Ashley Madison comments page.  One lady named Happily Married states how cheaters are the lowest thing ever.  By the end she's saying well it's better than having an office, BFF or prostitute romance.  So check it out and form your own opinion.  A lot of people think 'oh not my man' or 'not my spouse'.  Ashley Madison is over 3 million strong! Someone IS signing up.  I found another link that explains the site to see if it's up your alley. I'm not saying it's right. Nor am I saying it's wrong. I'm all about educating and letting people know what's out there.

 

"Lipstick on your collar told a tale on you. Lipstick on your collar said you were untrue."--Connie Francis

XOXO!

Sugar